In the last post, we talked about how to address your children in your love story. Today, we're going to talk about how to weave parenting into your personal story. As we've mentioned before, the goal here is to make the birth mom fall in love with YOU first, and then your family next.
When it comes to individual sections (i.e. Meet Kevin or Meet Heather) we always recommend writing the section about your partner. We feel this works best because it allows you to "brag" a little bit more than you could if you were writing about yourself. Think about it, doesn't it sound odd when you say, "I'm a funny, smart and beautiful person with a smile that could light up any room" ?
So in these sections, when you're writing about your partner, it's great to talk about what they are like as a mom/dad but it's also important to talk about what they are like as a man/woman and husband/wife, too. What about their personality do you love the most?
Example: "Tall, dark and handsome. Wait, wait, wait... no. Average height, Scandinavian pale and as cute as ever! Yup, that's my Kevin. I have to say, I really am the luckiest girl in the world. It's hard to find someone whose willing to put up with the starving artist, but back in college when we first met, Kevin was all about it! Thankfully, as an architect, he's just as creative as me and has always appreciated and supported me in my work. That's just the kind of guy he is, supportive, encouraging and loyal as can be!
Then think about about what fun/unique things set them apart? What do they truly enjoy doing when they have free time to spend alone? These are the elements of person that build the most honest portrait of who they are and what they have to share with a child.
Example: "Though Kevin spends his days designing and planning the buildings of his dreams, he spends his evenings and weekends working on our dream home. Whether it's building a new piece of furniture in his workshop, helping me put up a gallery wall or just watering the plants in our gardens, it always seems like Kevin has a project that he's working on. Oh, and he also loves to cook. Seriously, I almost never have to put my apron one! This guy is in there every night, whipping up delicious treats and savory meals for the whole family!"
And finally, now that we have a good idea of what Kevin is like as a person, let's go ahead and talk about him as a parent. What does he do with your child/children? What does he look forward to sharing with another child?
Example: "Though I've known Kevin for nearly a decade, I don't think I really knew him until our daughter, Sophie, was born. It's like I was able to see him come alive! He was as happy as a person could be. It's been incredible to watch him and Sophie grow together. I love watching them build huge forts in the living room, "dig to china" in the back yard, or just have reading time together each night. Those two truly are the best of friends and I can't wait to see what kind of relationship Kevin develops with another child in the future!"
This concludes our second post in the How to Talk About Your Kids series. Stay tuned for the third and final post where we will discuss how to write a section for your children!